Day 7 – Friendships That Shaped Me: True Connections, Losing Friends, and Making New Ones
On this journey of life, I’ve had the privilege of meeting and making friends; real friends, who, in one way or another, have left their mark on me. One profound truth I’ve come to learn is that friendship isn’t always about having everything in common. In fact, some of the strongest bonds I’ve formed were with people who were seemingly nothing like me. Sometimes, we were just a group of misfits with different ideologies, personalities, and worldviews. But there was always one constant, a shared interest or experience, that held us together. For some, it’s food. For others, it’s sports, fashion, music, religion… name your pick.
There’s a particular friend I’ve known since SS2. We finished secondary school together and, by some stroke of divine alignment, gained admission into the same university, same faculty, and even the same department. At one point, we became roommates. Now that adulthood is doing what adulthood does best- keeping everyone busy, we may go months without speaking. But whenever we do catch up, it’s as if no time has passed. We gist for hours, relive the good old days, and check in on each other like nothing ever changed. Friends like this have shown me that true connection transcends time, distance, social status, or possessions.
Another aspect of friendship I often reflect on is my dynamic with the opposite gender. I have more female friends than male ones (and I know what you're probably thinking😏😒😅). But truthfully, two people of opposite genders can genuinely care for and support each other without romantic strings attached. I remember a moment back in school with a female friend of mine (she might see this, and I hope she doesn’t remember it too clearly). It was one of those typical night Walker reading sessions(you know how it is in LT 2 Na 😅). I had gone to buy snacks for us, as I usually did when I could afford it. She was with my phone while I was away, scrolling through pictures, and when my transaction alert popped up, she saw my account balance, it was literally my last money at the time. When I returned, she looked at me and said, “Your account balance should never be this low.” Without hesitation, she transferred money to me.
That moment still lives rent-free in my heart. So when people say women don’t give unless in extreme cases, I can’t relate. Most of the ladies I call friends give without hesitation or condition. But here’s the thing: friendships thrive when there’s mutual investment. Whether male or female, friendships only flourish when there’s trust, care, open communication, and impact, both ways.
As for the friendships I’ve lost, I’d be lying if I said I don’t sometimes miss some of them. But I’ve also come to live life without regrets. I believe that everyone who comes into my life arrives at the right time and leaves when their season is complete. Some people are here for a phase, a season, and once their part in my story is done, life has a way of ushering in the next chapter with new people. Others are meant to walk with me across many seasons, maybe even all the way to the end. This mindset has helped me maintain peace when I’m no longer in touch with someone who was once very close.
To the new friends I’ve made, especially those from last year till now, I know you’re here to add your own flavour to my journey. And I welcome you with open arms. I’m learning to embrace every new chapter of my life with gratitude, knowing each phase comes with its own set of blessings and lessons.
As I reflect on friendships that have shaped me, I thank God for the gift of true friends. I’d love to mention names, but the list would be endless. Whether we talk every day or once in a blue moon, whether we’re still in touch or have drifted apart—know that I carry our shared moments with me.
Cheers to friendship; old, new, lost, and found.
You’ve all helped shape the person I am becoming.
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